When it comes to planning a wedding, one of the most important decisions you’ll make is choosing the photographer. After all, your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event, and those photos are what you’ll cherish for years (and maybe even generations) to come. But where do you start? How do you sift through all the options and find the photographer who will truly capture the essence of your big day?
I remember when I was getting married a few years ago. It was overwhelming trying to figure out what made a photographer “perfect” for us. There were so many styles, prices, and personalities to consider, not to mention the ever-growing list of wedding-day moments to capture. Through trial and error, and a fair bit of research, I learned a few key things that I wish I had known from the start. So let me walk you through the ABC’s of picking your wedding photographer—trust me, it’s not as daunting as it seems once you break it down! I ended up choosing Curtis Jones and it was a great decision.
A: Ask Yourself What Style Speaks to You
This is where it all begins. What kind of photos do you want? Do you like the classic, posed shots that make every detail look flawless? Or are you drawn to candid, documentary-style photography that captures raw, unposed moments?
For me, I knew from the beginning I wasn’t into stiff, traditional photos. I wanted something more natural, something that would make me feel like I was right back in that moment every time I looked at the pictures. After looking through countless portfolios and Pinterest boards, I found that the photographers who focused on natural light, candid moments, and vibrant emotions were a perfect fit for what I had in mind.
One photographer I considered was known for their editorial style—very stylized with lots of props and intricate setups. While their photos were beautiful, I realized they weren’t exactly what I envisioned for our wedding. For some couples, that might be the vibe, but for me, I wanted something a little more laid-back and honest.
Take your time going through portfolios. Think about what makes you feel something when you look at photos. It’s not just about technical quality—it’s about connection. Trust me, that gut feeling you get when you find your style is the one you should follow.
B: Budget, But Don’t Settle
Let’s face it—weddings are expensive. Once you’ve picked your venue, your dress, and your catering, it feels like everything is priced out of reach. But when it comes to photography, this is one area where you shouldn’t just go with the cheapest option. I get it, it’s tempting to save a little here, but remember: you’re investing in memories. These photos are going to stay with you long after the cake is eaten and the flowers have wilted.
That said, photography doesn’t have to break the bank either. Think about your priorities. We spent more on photography than I originally planned, but looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing. Every photo from our wedding is so full of life, color, and emotion that it makes the entire day feel eternal.
Start by setting a realistic budget, but be flexible with it. If there’s a photographer you really like but they’re a bit above your price range, consider cutting back on other aspects (maybe fewer flowers or a smaller guest list?) to make room for what matters most: preserving the magic of the day.
C: Chemistry Is Key
Now, this part can be a little tricky—finding someone you click with. Yes, the photographer’s skill is important, but so is their personality. After all, they’re going to be spending hours with you on one of the most intimate days of your life.
I remember meeting with one photographer, and honestly, the vibes just weren’t there. They were incredibly talented, but we didn’t mesh. I wanted someone who could make me feel comfortable in front of the camera—who wouldn’t make me feel self-conscious about every little detail. Your photographer should make you feel at ease, like a friend rather than a stranger with a camera.
During the interview or consultation, pay attention to how they communicate with you. Are they warm? Do they listen to your ideas and understand your vision? Do they seem like they care about what’s important to you? If yes, you’re probably onto something good.
I went with a photographer who was not only incredible at her craft but also super approachable. She even gave me tips on how to pose in a way that felt natural and beautiful. That made all the difference. I barely noticed her snapping photos—she was more like a guiding presence than an outsider.
D: Dig Deeper into Reviews and References
Okay, this one might feel like a no-brainer, but it’s easy to skip over. Check out real reviews from couples who have worked with your photographer. Reviews can tell you so much more than a fancy website or perfectly curated Instagram page. Look for feedback about the photographer’s personality, professionalism, and ability to deliver on time.
I remember reading through dozens of testimonials when choosing my photographer. One review really stuck with me: a couple mentioned how the photographer helped them through a mini crisis (a delayed wedding dress, no less!) with calm and grace. That stuck with me—weddings don’t always go according to plan, and you want someone who’s calm under pressure.
Also, ask your photographer for references. Speaking with a past client can give you insight into what it’s really like to work with them.
E: Experience Counts, But Fresh Eyes Can Shine Too
While it’s important to choose someone with experience, don’t discount the fresh faces just because they haven’t shot a hundred weddings. Sometimes, new photographers bring an energy and creativity that more seasoned pros might miss. Don’t be afraid to take a chance on someone who’s newer to the game but has a style that speaks to you.
For me, I took a bit of a risk with a photographer who had been working in the wedding industry for a couple of years but had only shot a handful of weddings. Their style was fresh and modern, and the risk paid off big time—they ended up capturing some of the most beautiful shots I have of the day.
But if you’re leaning towards a more experienced photographer, check out their portfolio for a wide range of weddings. A good photographer will adapt their style to fit the couple and the day, so versatility is key.
The Little Things Matter
There’s no formula for finding the “perfect” wedding photographer, but these steps will guide you toward someone who can capture not just the moments, but the feeling of your day. Trust your instincts, do your research, and don’t rush the process. When you find the right fit, it will feel like magic—and when you see those photos later, you’ll know you made the right choice.
And as you scroll through those pictures years down the road—maybe with your partner by your side or a child in your lap—you’ll remember the joy, the nervous excitement, and everything in between. That’s the beauty of finding someone who truly understands the heart of your wedding. It’s not just about what they capture; it’s about how they make you feel when you look back.